Random Angels in the Wings

 

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Image By June Perkins

Ever had random angels in the wings?  They say or do just what you might have needed at that moment.  Afterwards you find yourself thinking, did that just happen?

These angels seem all the more random because they are in public spaces and make you feel happy, helped and safe, when perhaps you could be suspicious, struggling and scared.

I share with you three angels who must’ ve specialised in young mums. I have never forgotten their actions, although to be honest I don’t remember their faces at all.

The first angel

I’m in a university library, looking for some books I need for research.

We can handle this, we have before, my first born and I are intrepid explorers.  However today he starts to get teary. I give him something to play with from what I wished was a bottomless magic mum bag!

This book search is long though and we are running out of options.  The librarian is watching, is this good or bad?

She lets me know although there is not a children’s section as such there is a curriculum section which has all sorts of goodies I can borrow even if temporarily to keep him happy whilst I wander the library. There’s even puppets there.

We go straight to curriculum and I find something which really entertains him. I am able to find the rest of the books for my essay.

The second angel

I’ m stuck at the bottom of some stairs at a railway station. I don’t know where the lift is. There is a massive surge of people going up the stairs. I fold up the pram and ready myself to hold it in one arm and my toddler in another.

Someone just appears and chirps,  ‘need a hand with that.’

He walks beside me, takes my pram to the top of the stairs, unfolds it for me,  smiles and leaves me to go my way.   The day has begun well.

The third angel

I’m stunned, someone just said to me ‘You are a great mother,’ these words came from a complete stranger, watching me in the library, negotiating the shelves with my children.

This was something which I hoped I was and strived to be. I am a bit anxious about it sometimes, and don’t have much of a support network of other young mums or family around me, but I keep trying my best.

I live for the dreams of my children but I do have my own as well.  I have been reading so many books on parenting but sometimes books just don’t hold all the answers on a day- to-day basis.

What did I do? Just kept my cool even when the kids were getting a little snarky. Just gently disciplined them with reason until they just behaved.

It wasn’t creepy to have a stranger say this, this angel seemed to genuinely to want to put a kindness post it note on me and say well done .

It feels like someone somewhere is clapping me and giving me a big cheer to sustain me through any other times when mothering will seem tough.

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Then I see the news this week, a young woman on a bus, assaulted, in broad daylight, no-one does anything. How can this happen? Where were her random angels waiting in the wings?

What must her mother be feeling right now?

I hope there are many more angels waiting in the wings of the lives of the mothers and their children who need them.  Even when you practice self reliance they do have the power to make the world seem a better place.

Then I open up the newsfiles and find out about all the people wanting the girls in Nigeria released.  Are they Random Angels,  deliberately joining forces ? Bring back the girls!

There’s a place for global and local random acts of kindness, and deliberate and random acts of kindness.  Just maybe there is hope?

Yarning with Bubu

Youngest son’s continuing interviews with grandparents.

Following the Crow Song

This is my youngest son’s interview with his Bubu (grandparent)

Hello Bubu.  I am doing a project about my family history.
Can you help?

What do you want to know about your project?

I am studying my family tree for school
And we have your father and mother’s name.

I can only go back as far as my grandmother.  I am doing some research on this.

Ok then what is her name?

My grandfather on my mother’s side name was Ako Gope I think, and my father’s side was Oake Apepe.
My grandmother was Fala Ekelakoa but my
Father’s side I don’t remember.
But I think it was Wagua.

Do you have photos that you could send me?

No dear sorry
I don’t have any photos at all of my grand parents
Oh wait, we do have one of my Dad.

I am looking through photos that Mark  Mosco and…

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Yarning with Nana

The second part in my sons guest blogs on his grandparents

Following the Crow Song

This is another guest blog from my youngest son about his grandparents.  Maybe we can persuade them to guest blog one day.

I asked Nana some questions and this is what she told me.

1) What countries are your relatives from?
Pieter your Great Great grandfather was from Natal, Sth Africa, great great grandmother, Florence Great Grandfather from Paris, Alfred born in Mt Gambier Australia, to colonial family, Great grandmother, Helen born Castlemaine Vic

2) What were your grandparents jobs?
Pieter, your great great grandfather was a coach maker, & interpreter (12 languages), Florence your great, great grandmother was a lion tamer in circus on arrival in Melb Vic., Alfred was a labourer, farm worker & Helen was a domestic worker.

3) Where were you Born?
Nana was born in Melbourne, Australia (Helen Sonia Grundy Perkins is her name)

4) Where did you grow Up?
Port Melbourne Victoria

5) What…

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Researching Family History

My youngest son is guest blogging our family story at Following the Crow Song, this is from his year 6 family history where he asked his grandparents their story, he needs to interview his Poppy as well.

Following the Crow Song

In the next few posts I will share my son’s research of our family history.  He did this for a year 6 project.

It is precious when grandparents share their stories.

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I have been interviewing my grandparents.  Here I am with Nana Perkins when she visited me.

I learnt that my family has many cultures in it from the past and in the present.

We have:

Aboriginal                    

Australian                                    

English

Irish                              

South African                         

French        

German                                           

Scottish                                 

Papua New Guinea

 Iran

Here are what all these flags look like.

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I found out our Papua New Guinean Tribe has a Totem. It is a Bird of Paradise.  This is what it looks like.

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The name of the tribe is Maipa Fakai.  This is a photo of Bubu (Gerards) village.

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I researched the stories of three of my grandparents.

I did these interviews by email and…

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